08/14/2026
This is kind of long so hang on tight.
About 14 years ago I got a call that would change my life. A good buddy of mine contacted me one afternoon and asked, “Hey you up for putting together a golf tournament?”
Let me give you some background. From 2006-2010, I had been highly involved in a charity golf tournament for the Gerry Bertier Foundation for people with spinal cord injuries. Gerry was the real life linebacker from the movie Remember the Titans. After a successful run, I had moved on and thought my work with a charity foundation was done. Until the call. I asked what this charity was all about and Ralph explained that he had a neighbor down the street, Victoria, who wanted to raise money for the ASK FOUNDATION, a charitable organization helping children suffering from cancer. You see, Victoria’s daughter was an Ask Kid, being diagnosed at 2 yrs old with cancer. Her daughter Mackenzie (Mack) was a survivor and Ask had helped her and her family get through the cancer and into remission. Mack had been selling lemonade with a friend, trying to “raise a million dollars” to help other kids who were suffering, as she did. Ralph’s daughter Megan happened to be one of the lemonade peddlers. Well, Victoria knew that not enough lemons on earth would provide enough lemonade for $1million dollars, and she knew that Ralph played a lot of golf, so she called him asking if he thought he could help her put a tournament together to raise money. Ralph didn’t even hesitate and said, “I got the guy. Let me call him.”
So that brings us back to the phone call. After mulling over his request for about 3 seconds, I said, “Sure, let’s do it!” Whenever you are making a commitment to this kind of task, it has to have two things. Your passion to make a difference and something you truly believe in. I have always had a passion for helping kids, and the thought of being able to help even one child, was worth it. Plus, I have had personal family members die from this dreaded disease, so anything I can do to help a kid to try and kick this disease’s butt, I was all in.
What I didn’t know at the time, was that this organization didn’t just help the kids, but it helped the families. I never realized the sacrifice and the toll that it takes on the family of the child with cancer. I didn’t know that there are frequent trips to VCU Oncology, every week, and that a two income household, quickly becomes one. The hospital bills, the costs of everything doubles. To know that ASK was helping the families pay their bills, their mortgages, their gas… I was so appreciative of what they did. And then the kids. The personal attention to them. Therapists, psychologists, spirituality, physical support. All of it coming from one place. They meet the definition of their name. Assistance, Kindness, Support. WHO WOULDN’T want to be in support of something like this?
Another thing that I learned after talking with some child cancer survivors was the physical and mental disabilities that come along with the radiation and chemo. Seizures, learning disabilities, migraines, stuttering, loss of balance, and sometimes loss of limbs. Just because a child rings the bell, doesn’t mean it’s all over. There’s a lifetime of struggles still ahead.
This year, it is 14 years later from that initial phone call from Ralph. To date, we have raised over $540,000 from our “little” golf tournament, and every year, I am more and more passionate, driven and appreciative of what ASK does.
I feel like our fundraiser has become a small part of the community, every year, welcoming back familiar faces and new ones. And meeting people you never knew, giving their time and efforts to volunteering from the goodness of their heart, and golfers, duffers and hackers coming out to Lee’s Hill Golf Club year after year to support us. There’s a sense of belonging of community and an importance of what we are doing, no matter how big or small.
This tournament has become a part of my life and I’m so thankful that Ralph called me that day, and that Victoria called Ralph and that the kids started the lemonade stand.
I hope if any of this moves you, that you will join in the fight against pediatric cancer and help us help the kids.
If you feel like sponsoring, making a donation or even entering the raffle for a week at the beach, I hope this moves you to take action. And if not, I hope you enjoyed the story.
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