05/14/2026
This saying reminds me of the principle "Perspective determines action".
Our view of the world is not how the world is, its a reflection of how we are.
Two people can look out a window at a rainstorm and feel totally different about it. One views it as gloomy, while the other runs to the garden thats finally getting the water it needs.
Nothing changed with the weather, simply their perspectives.
We tend to assume that happiness is dependant on circumstances. It goes somethign like "I'm happy when...", as if to be happy requires us to get, do, see, or say something that "makes" us happy.
The truth, which took me way longer to understand than I'd like to admit, is that happiness is a choice. As tough as that is to accept. Others do not "make you mad", we simply use others actions or words to verify or validate our already existing beliefs.
In other words, feelings are beliefs. We attach an emotional response to the actions of others and then use it as validation for what we already believed.
Change your perspective, change your life is another saying. Don't like how things are going, choose how you feel instead.