04/14/2026
A.I. is coming for my job. However, "there is only one god and his name is Death, and there is only one thing we say to Death: Not today." (GOT reference for fans)
A few months ago after 25+ years of working with a retired couple the husband rather suddenly passed away. They were still relatively young retirees and had so many things in front of them they still wanted to do. We were able to settle things quickly here, within 2 weeks, but on top of the personal pain, the financial changes can be real. Surviving spouses can be left with more questions than answers, as plans are usually made on the assumption that both partners will remain alive. On top of that are the struggles with contacting social security, and pension plans and retitling bank accounts, getting burial plots, all kinds of things.
We met again this morning to review her plan. We were ready to walk through a whole scenario to give her the confidence that she would be able to continue her lifestyle, because that's what I knew she'd be worried about.
But when she came in we had to adapt on the fly. To start, she gave me a budget sheet that showed that she's actually been spending far less than before. She has taken out a travel expense and other things that were planned when he was alive, for instance. She had concerns that she would not be able to spend the same way. We use software and screens to visually run scenarios in real time so were able to make this change immediately. Of course in this scenario she was going to be just fine.
But then as we demonstrated that, light bulbs went off.
"I really would like to travel....."OK, let's add back in $10K in annual travel the rest of your life. Still OK.
"Well, I'd like to renovate property we own that I've always wanted to do (this is potentially triple figures)." OK, let's plug that in, still OK, no problem, let's do it.
"What if the cost goes over?" (Still OK, do it).
"My grandchildren are young and they've told me they really would like to take a vacation with me."
OK, time is short, we have a window at that age so you should do it. Let's add $30K for that (as a placeholder) . Look at that, still OK, book it. In fact maybe book a separate trip once a year for 3 years if it's important.
Being able to have these conversations and demo it in real time is powerful, especially in a situation like this. She has had tremendous loss, but she still has the ability to do so many things because of the plans they made over 25 years.
There were tears. Out of sadness because these were things she had hoped they could do together. But I'd like to think there was a little bit of relief and happiness as well. I got her tissues, they were lodged behind the Darth Vader mask and the Rock em Sock em robots on our credenza (don't judge). I really want her to do all of these things. When she's ready, but not waiting too long because those kids won't stay those ages forever.
For those wondering, there were no hugs, I have my bold lines, as you know. But there could have been. And do you really want A.I. handing you tissues and giving you a hug?