09/22/2026
I recently spent far too much time debating whether I should replace a 10-year-old set of golf clubs.
The funny part is that I’ll spend far more than that on a golf trip without nearly as much internal debate.
That got me thinking about something I see often, both in my own life and in the lives of our clients.
People with real financial capacity are often very selective about where they spend freely.
They may comparison shop, buy the Kirkland version, negotiate a bid, or hang onto something for years longer than necessary.
Then they’ll spend generously on travel, family, experiences, charity, or anything else that genuinely matters to them.
One of the things I like most about financial planning is that our job is not to tell people how to spend their money. Our job is to be a mirror.
To reflect back what they are spending, show them what it means for the plan, and help them understand where they have room to spend confidently.
In the end, there is no prize for always choosing the cheapest option. And there is no prize for always choosing the most expensive one.
The real question is: What’s it all for?
I wrote more about it here.
Wealth isn’t about spending more on everything. It’s about knowing what matters. A personal look at intentional spending, quiet wealth, financial planning, and using money to create more freedom, experiences, and meaning.