09/05/2026
If kegels aren’t fixing your leaking, it might be because your pelvic floor was never... the weak one.
A weak floor can’t generate force. A tight floor can’t let go. Both of them leak, and only one of them gets better with more squeezing.
Signs yours might be tight rather than weak: pain with intimacy, trouble emptying fully, constipation, and a floor that feels like it never switches off.
Mine was tight. I squeezed harder for months and it got worse. What changed it was learning to relax first, which is why every session in my program opens with breathing and pelvic floor relaxation before anything is loaded.
If it isn’t improving, a pelvic floor PT can tell you which one you’re actually dealing with. That’s the shortcut, not the last resort.
Comment BREATHE and I’ll send you my full diaphragmatic breathing guide.