08/19/2026
This is so sad but so true. We hate to think about life without our loved ones but talking about this can be helpful. ❤️As an insurance advisor I witness first hand how heart broken, and stressed surviving spouses are after their lives are turned upside down. I encourage you to talk and get things organized. ❤️Here to help in anyway.
There's no manual for what to do after losing a spouse.
This is the closest thing to one.
In the middle of one of the hardest weeks of your life, you're also expected to make calls that most people have never thought about until they're forced to. Save this now so you're not trying to figure it out in the moment.
Start with the funeral home. They typically report the death to Social Security for you, but confirm they actually did.
Call Social Security directly and ask about the survivor benefit, along with the one time $255 lump sum death payment.
Contact life insurers, including any old employer group policies. Claims usually start with a death certificate and a form.
Reach out to pension and 401k or IRA custodians about survivor payout elections and spousal rollover options.
Notify the employer for final pay, group life insurance, and any other benefits owed.
Call banks and brokerages to retitle joint accounts and claim any payable on death balances.
Contact the three credit bureaus for a deceased alert, which helps block identity theft targeting someone who has passed.
Reach out to Medicare and health insurers to end coverage and premiums.
Call home and auto insurers to keep coverage valid while titles are being changed.
If they served, contact the VA about burial benefits and survivor payments.
Reach out to the estate attorney or county probate office with the will in hand to understand what the estate actually requires.
And finally, contact the DMV and voter registration to close those doors and prevent fraud.
One more thing worth knowing ahead of time. Social Security is not payable for the month of death, so any payment received for that month has to be returned, and banks will often pull it back automatically. Knowing that in advance turns a frightening clawback letter into expected paperwork instead of a shock.
And get 10 to 12 copies of the death certificate before you start. Nearly every call on this list will ask for one.