02/23/2021
Pregnant or not, I think we could all use a little self love these days ๐๐ฝโค๏ธ๐ฅฐ
You may have pictured being pregnant as a time to be shared with family and friends and a time to celebrate, maybe you pictured, traveling somewhere special with your partner during your last months as a family of two (or three, or four, or fiveโฆ)! Then Covid happened and what you pictured needed to shift. The unfortunate truth is, the plan you may have hoped for likely wonโt be as conducive to the new reality. Changing expectations can be challenging, but the good news is we know what can help with this!
1) Grieving the ambiguous loss: You may be grieving (feeling anger, shock, sadness, etc) the pregnancy youโd imagined. Although this doesn't feel pleasant, itโs okay to allow these feelings of loss to exist. If you feel a sense of sadness when planning your virtual baby shower (or perhaps are for-going a baby shower altogether), allow yourself space and time to experience your emotional reality.
2) Develop a new, more present-focused vision: Reflect on what are more reasonable expectations, for right now. What can you focus on today or even this week that feels grounded in your reality? For example, your baby shower may not be how youโd originally envisioned, but what are other (more realistic options) for how you can create an experience you will cherish?
3) Utilize coping when unhelpful thoughts arise: Itโs easy to get stuck in the negative (in fact, humans are prone to do this). If you find yourself dwelling on potential catastrophic outcomes, remember all outcomes exist on a spectrum. What are more positive possible outcomes? Shift your focus- this doesnโt mean avoid your feelings and worries, itโs an exercise in looking at what else exists within your emotional experience that could be more helpful).
4) Find Gratitude and Reframe: What about this experience is working for you? For example, maybe you and your partner are both working from home, allowing you to fully experience this pregnancy together (which you wouldnโt have been able to do previously).
You are going through a lot. It's okay to feel overwhelmed. You are doing great and remember you have options when it comes to strategies to cope with the stressors. If you want more information on how to cope while pregnant in 2021 visit our blog at www.growingself.com