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11/25/2024

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09/06/2024

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08/04/2024

Divorcing a Narcissist or High Conflict Spouse Will Not Be Easy. Understanding these motivations is crucial for you when you are divorcing a narcissist. It highlights the importance of strategic thinking, emotional resilience, and seeking appropriate legal and psychological support. I offer 1:1 coaching support during your mediation and divorce.

07/28/2024

High-conflict divorces are marked by persistent hostility, manipulation, and often unpredictable behavior from the other party. Understanding these aspects is crucial for developing effective strategies to navigate your high-conflict divorce. In high-conflict divorce mediation, strategic planning is essential. It helps you stay organized, focused, and proactive in protecting your interests. Key elements of a strategic divorce mediation plan include assessing your situation, setting clear goals, and developing a step-by-step action plan. Get your Prepare For Your High Conflict Divorce Mediation. The Strategy For Winning Your Bottom Line.

07/23/2024

I offer 1:1 divorce coaching and mediation preparation.

07/17/2024

Co-parenting with a narcissistic ex-spouse is exceptionally difficult, if not impossible, endeavor. Narcissists thrive on control and chaos, often using the children as pawns to manipulate and distress you. They will undermine your parenting decisions, ignore agreed-upon schedules, and use communication as a weapon, and not communicating as a tool.  Cooperative co-parenting requires a level of mutual respect and collaboration that narcissists are unwilling or unable to provide. Instead, they prioritize their own needs and desires, disregarding the emotional and psychological well-being of both the children and you. For many, parallel parenting, where interactions are minimized, becomes the only viable solution to protect themselves and their children from the narcissist’s relentless manipulative tactics. The reality is, even after the divorce, vigilance is key. 
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07/10/2024

Who can you trust? During divorce, one of the most damaging tactics used by a Narcissist is the smear campaign. Through deliberate falsehoods and distortions, they aim to undermine your relationships with friends, family, and possibly even your children. This orchestrated effort seeks to isolate you by damaging your reputation and severing your support network. The goal is to make leaving them appear not only challenging you also would be alone and unsupported in doing so, reinforcing their control over you.

07/04/2024

Check Yourself: Divorce and The Immutable Narcissist- 5 Vital Beliefs
One of the toughest and most important things to believe when divorcing a narcissistic spouse is that they are unlikely to change their behavior or attitudes. Operating under this belief during separation and divorce is crucial for you because it helps you manage your expectations to avoid getting sucked back into their unhealthy cycle of abuse

06/30/2024

Easier said than done but you must remain calm, composed demeaner and facial expressions. Present your side clearly and factually with documents to back it up. That is what the judge is interested in anyway. The facts. The law.
 
Weaponizing Personal Experiences:
• Narcissists will twist interactions to fit their “I am all good.” “They are all bad” narrative.  They will bring up a highly personal experience that you shared with them in confidence or bring up your reaction in a past argument. It will be a  distorted version that makes you look bad, or unstable. They will tell these fabrications and distortions to their attorney. The attorney is hired to defend their client and takes up the mantel and uses it in court. If the attorney is narcissistic, it can be brutal.
• Their goal is to evoke an emotional response from you in court. Undermine your credibility. If you get flustered or angry, it can make you seem unreliable or unstable.
Using Your Weaknesses:
• Narcissists are keen observers. They’ll use any information they’ve gathered about your fears, insecurities, or vulnerabilities against you. Without a doubt.
• This could involve highlighting something you’re sensitive about or using details you shared in confidence to undermine your credibility.
Blindsided Tactics:
• They introduce unexpected information or arguments during the court proceedings to catch you off guard.
• This can be emotionally manipulative and make it harder for you to respond calmly and effectively.

06/27/2024

·  Creating a Fog of Confusion: Imagine you ask a narcissist a simple question, but their answer is full of irrelevant details, what-ifs, and emotional tangents. They want to deflect off of the real issue.
·  Shifting the Blame: Their answer turns the tables on you by accusing you of something or making you feel responsible for their actions. Somehow you end up apologizing to them.
·  Maintaining Power: By keeping you off-balance and unsure, they maintain the upper hand during the divorce process. They want to control the flow of information