Starting Over Stronger Divorce Concierge

06/04/2026

☕ Coffee + Connection
Starting this Friday, May 16th at 9:00 a.m. CST, I’m opening up a free weekly space for women navigating separation and divorce.

This isn’t therapy and it isn't a gripe session. It’s a calm, supportive conversation with other women navigating it too and a Certified Divorce Coach who has been there and knows how heavy and disorienting this season of life can feel.

Some weeks you may want to talk. Some weeks you may just want to listen. Both are welcome.

We may discuss things like:
• communication and conflict
• mediation and divorce process questions
• grief, fear, and uncertainty
• rebuilding identity and stability
• how to move forward without losing yourself

Free to attend. Every Friday at 9:00 a.m. CST. Join us and bring a friend.

Register today by submitting an inquiry on the site in bio. Zoom link will be shared when we receive your inquiry. Comment or PM if you need more information.

If you ever feel like it, you can "buy me a coffee" ☕ with a Venmo to .

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05/30/2026

From one very wise pro se divorce party:

One thing I wish more women knew during divorce: discovery is not the only way to get financial records.

I am self-represented, and using subpoenas has been one of the most valuable tools in managing my case.

Many of us are told to “send discovery” and wait.

But here is what often happens:

You send the request.
They have 30 days to respond.

They request an extention.

Your atorney grants it as "customary"
The response is incomplete.
You meet and confer.
You file a motion to compel.
You wait for a hearing.
The court orders production.
And even then, you still may not get the full records.

That is the discovery loop.

In some situations, subpoenas can be a better option.

A subpoena allows you to request records directly from the bank, employer, lender, retirement company, insurance company, mortgage company, or other third-party entity that actually has the documents.

This can be especially valuable when you need bank statements, paystubs, retirement account records, annuity withdrawals, mortgage files, loan applications, credit reports, insurance records, business records, account histories, or payment records.

The benefit is simple: you are not relying only on what the other person chooses to provide.

You are going directly to the source.

This can save time, reduce guessing, and sometimes save money because you may avoid months of fighting over incomplete responses.

Whether you are self-represented or working with an attorney, it is worth asking:

“Is this something I should request through discovery, or should I subpoena the records directly from the entity?”

Subpoenas still have rules. They must be done correctly, served properly, and sometimes notice must be given. But they are a real tool, and many people do not realize they are available.

The goal is not to overwhelm yourself with paperwork.

The goal is to get accurate records so financial decisions are based on facts, not assumptions.

Be the CEO of your own case. And if you need support as you do, reach out!

05/29/2026

Just imagine finally finding the courage to tell your story after carrying it in silence for so long — only for people to call you a liar because your abuser was “such a nice person” to everyone else.

That’s one of the cruelest parts of abuse. Some people are experts at protecting their image while destroying someone privately behind closed doors.

So when the victim finally speaks, they’re forced to relive the pain while also defending their truth.

Abusers are often believable because the mask was part of the manipulation all along.

And being liked publicly does not make someone harmless privately.

If this is happening to you, reach out here for support. www.StartingOverStronger.com.

05/29/2026

WHAT YOUR EMOTIONS REVEAL ABOUT YOU

1. Fear: You are standing near change. Growth often feels dangerous before it feels freeing.

2. Anxiety: You are trying to control what cannot fully be controlled. Breathe, soften, and trust life more.

3. Guilt: You are carrying the past too heavily. Learn the lesson, forgive yourself, and move forward.

4. Helplessness: You have been strong for too long alone. Allow support, rest, and softness into your life.

5. Confusion: One version of your life is ending while another has not fully begun yet. Give yourself patience.

6. Despair: Your soul feels trapped, but sometimes endings create space for completely new beginnings.

7. Emptiness: You have become disconnected from yourself. Slow down and return inward again.

8. Regret: You wish things had happened differently. Take the wisdom and release the punishment.

9. Insecurity: You fear losing something important. Remember: what is truly meant for you does not require fear to keep it.

10. Resentment: You have ignored your own needs for too long. Boundaries are necessary for peace.

11. Envy: Something inside you recognizes a desire you have not fully allowed yourself to pursue yet.

12. Anger: Your boundaries, values, or pain are asking for attention. Listen carefully instead of exploding blindly.

13. Loneliness: Your heart is craving deeper connection, understanding, and emotional safety.

14. Jealousy: You fear comparison, replacement, or not feeling enough. Often it points toward unhealed self-worth.

15. Overthinking: Your mind is searching for certainty in an uncertain world.

16. Burnout: You have been giving more energy than your mind, body, or soul can restore.

17. Numbness: Your nervous system became overwhelmed and chose shutdown as protection.

18. Sadness: Something inside you needs gentleness, grieving, rest, or acknowledgment.

19. Impatience: You are resisting the timing of life instead of flowing with it.

20. People-pleasing: You learned that acceptance felt safer than authenticity.

21. Shame: A part of you still believes your mistakes define your worth.

22. Withdrawal: You are protecting yourself from disappointment, rejection, or emotional exhaustion.

23. Hope: Despite everything, your soul still believes healing and better days are possible.

Your emotions are not enemies.

They are messages.
Signals.
Wounds.
Needs.
Unspoken truths asking to be understood.

Healing begins when you stop fighting your emotions…
and start listening to what they are trying to teach you.

05/23/2026

Break the silence. This is abuse.

You will never change my mind and make me think this behavior is acceptable! ❤️‍🩹

05/23/2026

05/19/2026

Intimate partner violence is not an inner-city issue.

Every time a story like this makes the news, people act shocked because it happened in a “nice neighborhood,” to a “successful family,” or behind doors that looked completely normal from the outside.

But intimate partner violence is not confined to one income bracket, education level, profession, religion, or neighborhood. It exists in gated communities, luxury homes, quiet cul-de-sacs, and upper middle-class families just as much as anywhere else. Maybe more so. To be fair I don't know if that was the situation here, but we can see it happened in Overland Park one of the most affluent cities in the metro.

Many women living in psychologically, emotionally, financially relationships have never faced physical threat until it's too late. These women become experts at appearing “fine” to the outside world. In fact, the more image-conscious the environment, the more hidden the suffering often becomes.

That reality is part of why I’m I'm the early stages of founding a nonprofit as an adjunct to my Starting Over Stronger work, a nonprofit focused on helping women who feel trapped in unhealthy or controlling relationships find support, clarity, resources, and a path forward before their situation escalates into crisis.

Not every story makes the news. Not every form of abuse leaves bruises. And not every woman feels safe enough to tell the truth about what’s happening behind closed doors.
But these situations are far more common than most people realize.

Link source: KCTV

On Monday, OPPD said an autopsy led police to begin investigating Jennifer Thomas’ death as a possible homicide.

05/18/2026

Boy moms, let's hear from you!

Being a boy mom comes with this deep, fierce kind of love that makes me want to protect my son from every hard thing this world could ever throw at him, but it also comes with the responsibility of raising a man who makes other people feel safe, respected, valued, and emotionally secure, because loving our sons properly means teaching them accountability, empathy, kindness, and how to treat others with care even when nobody is watching, and honestly I never want my child to grow up believing love excuses harmful behavior or that being someone’s mother means blindly defending every action they take, because part of loving our children fully is guiding them toward becoming good humans the world can trust, and I think that matters just as much as protecting them 💙

05/17/2026

Sunday Sentiment 🌿