08/24/2026
Is it time to take away the keys?
If you're caring for a parent or spouse with dementia, this question keeps you up at night. Say yes too soon, and you feel like you're stealing their independence. Wait too long, and you're terrified of what could happen.
Here's the answer most caregivers never hear: it's not about choosing safety over independence. It's about managing the risk instead of eliminating it.
Start by asking three questions. How likely is real harm? How serious would it be if it happened? And can the risk be reduced instead of removed completely? If a fender bender in a parking lot is the worst-case outcome, that's a very different conversation than someone driving highway speeds while confused about where they are.
Sometimes the answer is a modified approach, like limiting driving to familiar daytime routes. Sometimes the risk is too high, and safety has to come first. But making that call thoughtfully, instead of out of fear, protects both your loved one's dignity and your peace of mind.
This is just one decision caregivers face. Our new whitepaper, Autonomy vs. Safety in Dementia Care: A Delicate Balance, walks through the process for deciding on important issues like: driving, living alone, wandering, medication safety, and more. All designed to help you feel supported when the next hard decision comes along..
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