06/03/2026
I didn't get a money talk growing up. What I got were survival instincts — and survival instincts and wealth-building instincts are not the same thing.
Debt was bad. Asking was weakness. Banks were for other people. Pay cash. Don't talk about it.
Every one of those beliefs made sense in the context my parents were living in. They watched debt take down people they loved. They heard "no" from banks for 20 years. Cash meant control.
But those beliefs, carried into a business context without examination, become invisible ceilings.
I had to unlearn the idea that leverage equals desperation. I had to walk into a bank for the first time even though it felt like a room I didn't belong in. I had to ask questions I was embarrassed not to already know the answers to.
None of that is blame. It's just the work.
They did what they could with what they had. Now we do what we can with what we've learned.
Comment UNLEARN — I'll share the first belief I had to get past myself.