09/29/2026
“Marry the house, date the rate.”
Great slogan. Questionable financial plan. 😅
There is truth behind it. Your first mortgage doesn't have to be your last. If rates eventually fall enough and refinancing makes financial sense, great!
The problem is when speculation is sold as a certainty.
Nobody can reliably predict exactly where mortgage rates will be 6 months, 2 years, or 5 years from now. So I don't want someone stretching beyond what they can reasonably afford today because they're being told, “Don't worry, you'll just refinance.”
I'm cautious with temporary buydowns for a similar reason. They can have their place, but the lower initial payment isn't free. Money is contributed upfront to subsidize those temporarily lower payments.
That creates an important question:
Is this actually the best use of those dollars?
Could they instead help with other closing costs or reduce cash-to-close? Is the buyer accepting a higher purchase price to receive the seller concession funding the buydown?
Some may still prefer the temporary buydown after comparing the alternatives. I respect that choice. But most importantly, the temporary payment shouldn't be what makes the house affordable.
Eventually, the actual note-rate payment shows up.
My preference?
Expect the best. Plan for the worst. Don't assume the best and ignore the math.
If rates fall? Fantastic. Let's look at refinancing.
If they don't? Could you still make the actual payment for 5, 10, or 15 years while saving, handling emergencies, and actually enjoying your life?
I've made my own impulsive purchase decisions too. I understand how powerful FOMO can be.
That's why I think our responsibility goes beyond getting someone to closing. Give people the information. Explain the tradeoffs. Let them make their own decision. And care about what happens after closing.
And to loosely borrow from Chris Rock...
What's a good mortgage?
One that lets you live your life. Do things. Go places. Buy stuff.
What's a bad mortgage?
One that only lets you pay your dang mortgage. 😂