05/10/2026
Mother’s Day is messy.
I wish I could say differently 8 years after losing my mom and 7 years after my divorce, but there it is. While there’s plenty of peace years after losing my mom, the grief is still there. While I love my life on my own, there’s still weird dynamics to navigate around family.
But really, I think we are all in the same boat, regardless of whether our mothers are living, the quality of our relationships with them, or our marital status, holidays hold a magnifying glass over our interactions with others and ourselves. That intense focus can burn a bit.
It helps, though, that' I’ve learned to better mother myself over the years, and celebrate the generous and caring mothering I see all around me — in friends, family, colleagues, and neighbors.
So today, I’ll raise a glass to everyone who mothers in any capacity, and to all of us feeling big feelings about the women who raised us. It’s okay if your insides don’t quite match the commercial saccharine images of the day. Know that you’re not alone, and I see you.