Brilliance U Coaching Pte., Ltd.

14/01/2023

“观“与“点“是两码事。

很多的时候我们之所以有烦恼，是因为“观“ 了之后无法控制自己的思想，进而想要表达自己的“点“。“点“是需要被听见，被知道的，它来自“自我“而非“本我“，所以“点“需要的是听众，同时“点“需要被认同，因其来自“自我“。既然需要被认同，那么就有不被认同的可能性，所以“点“就是延伸出来的烦恼。
反之，“观“只是看见，这种看见指的是不带任何偏见的看见，只是看见，是来自“本我“的行为，在“观“的过程中只是一个动作或者是一系列的动作，该行为本身没有任何需求，不因外界的评价而改变实质，所以“观“是没有烦恼的。
但是作为大脑，“思考“这个行为是它的特点或者说是擅长的，所以想要只“观“而不“点“其实就是对大脑的权威的挑衅。
作为本体论教练，我们的最基本功就是“观“，我们需要警觉的是“点“，因为一旦有了“点“，那么就有可能将客户带到了自己想让客户去的方向，而非看到实质，让客户选择自己想去的地方。

隋岩的一些随想

01/12/2020

Do you believe your dreams can come true?
Think again, and ask yourself this question again.

24/11/2020

What if the beliefs you have just the stories you made up based on your experiences?

Many people come to my coaching session, and thought they needed to be fixed, something wrong with them, or something wrong with their life, career...

During the coaching session then they realized it’s not the things not right with them, or not right with their environment. It is just the stories they have made up.

Why do we want to have awareness of our beliefs and stories that we have been made up? Because, if we can separate the stories and the facts, then we will have different perspectives, and we will realize we have more choices, then we can make empowering choice to empower ourselves.

Can we not living in the empowering environment? Can we just not make any empowerment choices? Sure, it is just a choice, and there will be only one person will be affect by it.

What if you can become more conscious of your stories, your beliefs?
What if you can change your stories anytime you aware of it?
What if you can make more conscious choices and empowering yourself anytime you want?

Then just be aware of your beliefs, ask yourself each time when you facing a difficulty:
“ base on this experience, what is(are) the beliefs I discovered? “

Wish you have a great journey on your way of discovering.

14/09/2020

24/07/2020

Are you committed to make your dream come true?
Are you committed to live your dream-life?
Are you willing to do whatever it takes to make your dreams come true,
And live your dream-life,
With or without any support?
What’s your answer?

* You may leave your answers below, if you open for discussion.

13/01/2020

作为一个卓越的领导者，其实最重要的不是成为谁，更重要的是愿意担负起怎样的责任而选择做什么样的事。

05/10/2019

成长源自思考
Growth come from Thinking
思考源自观察
Thinking from Observation

17/05/2019

What is the coach’s job?
The job of a coach isn’t moving the client towards somewhere, or anywhere. It is hearing the client what she/he said, to reflect to her/him about what they said, and what they are actually doing. Let her/him chose where she/he want to be.
The coach’s job is about creating trust. The trust for the coaching process which fit the needs for the moment; and the trust for the client which she/he knows the answer within herself/himself.

12/04/2019

【教练技术】教练技术的根本不是用来改变别人，而是帮助我们听到对方内心的声音，用照镜子的方式反应给对方看，而究竟选择什么，主动权在对方的手里，而不是在教练的手里。当我们把主动权还给对方的时候，我们就在无意间帮助对方练习了主动性。