05/11/2024
In Memory of Auntie – A Reminder to Take Care of Ourselves
This past weekend, a dear friend’s auntie passed away, leaving a quiet reminder of how fragile life can be and the importance of thinking of our own needs, even as we dedicate ourselves to caring for others.
Auntie lived in Johor Bahru, working tirelessly her whole life and always putting her family first. She took care of her husband and two sons, sacrificing so much along the way. But when she was diagnosed with stomach cancer six months ago, everything changed.
Her husband chose not to support her treatment, and her sons did not step in to help. With no options and limited funds from all her siblings’ contributions, they did what they could. Her siblings, who were in Singapore, took turns traveling back to Johor Bahru to care for her and eventually brought her to see Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), hoping it might offer an alternative. But after three difficult months, her condition only worsened. By the time they took her for a review with the same doctor and repeated diagnostic tests, it was too late—the cancer had spread. She was in the late, terminal stage, and there was nothing more to be done but to keep her comfortable.
Auntie’s story left us feeling both upset and saddened in so many ways. It also led me to think deeply about the importance of having support and options for whatever life may bring. In memory of Auntie, let’s remember her strength and all that she gave to her family. Her story reminds us of life’s uncertainties and the comfort that comes from having support, like the care her siblings offered, in difficult times.