18/06/2026
How to know if you're actually ready to buy your first home
Before you start falling in love with houses on Trade Me, let me tell you what I've learned after helping hundreds of first-home buyers:
The bank will tell you what you can borrow.
I'm going to tell you what you can actually afford.
Those two numbers? Not always the same.
A couple came in last month pre-approved for $680k. They were excited—already scrolling Trade Me, talking suburbs.
Then I asked: "What does $680k actually cost you every month?"
We worked it out:
Mortgage: $3523/month
Rates: $300
Insurance: $180
Utilities: $250
Maintenance: $200
Body corporate: $200-$400
Suddenly we weren't talking about $680k anymore.
We were talking about whether they could live on what's left after $4753 /month in housing costs.
The question changed from "Can I get approved?" to "Can I actually live like this?"
Here's what I believe:
You should buy where you can still breathe.
Not at the max the bank will lend you.
At the number that lets you pay your mortgage, handle rate rises, cover repairs, and still have money left for life.
That's why Step 1 of 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗛𝗼𝗺𝗲 𝗥𝗲𝗮𝗱𝘆 𝗠𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗼𝗱 is Discover Your Position .
Your deposit, income, debts, real monthly surplus, comfort zone, buying range, and upfront costs.
Not your fantasy number. Your real number.
That couple? They adjusted to $580k-$600k.
Less exciting on paper. But when we ran the numbers again, she smiled:
"That feels like we can actually breathe."
Exactly.
Want to know your real number—not just your approval number?
Send me a message.
Andre