27/06/2013
• 20 TROUBLE-SIGNS THAT SAY YOU'RE LOVING HIM/HER TOO MUCH
When you love someone so much more than they love you, you set the stage for that person to reject you. It's like putting pressure on someone to eat even though he or she is not hungry, and then feeling bad about the person's inability to eat as much as you ...want - YOUR FAULT, NOT THE PERSON'S...
Well, here are some signs that you've crossed the line between "loving" to "loving too much".
1. You felt empty and unloved before you met him or her, but now you feel even emptier and insecure.
2. You want to talk to him or her every few hours/see him or her every few days but unlike you, he or she is able to go for long periods of time without talking to you or seeing you - and it doesn't seem to bother him or her.
3. Most times - its either you're thinking - "he or she loves me so much" or "it's all over, he/she is not going to call."
4. Much of your day is consumed thinking of this special person and developing strategies of what you'll say or do (and when) to make him/her see that you are meant for each other etc.
5. He or she seems extraordinarily independent and this is driving you nuts. He or she even makes you feel you could have s*x with someone else and it wouldn't matter.
6. One moment, you find yourself unable to hold back from telling him or her that he or she is unfair, selfish, insensitive, unmotivated etc and the next moment you are professing your love and desire for a committed relationship.
7. You live for his or her love - and in moments of insecurity you try to squeeze out some words or actions that reassure you that he or she loves you and is there to stay - although deep inside you know that putting pressure on him or her is the worst thing to do.
8. You feel like you are getting mixed signals from him or her (you probably are). One moment he or she is open and wants to be close and the next, his or her words and actions seem to say "I need my space' or "leave me alone".
9. You're are trying so badly to please him or her, and do things to show him or her that you are deeply in love, and in the process losing yourself to the point that you are becoming increasingly "too serious' and"overly sensitive'.
10. You want to (and actually do) talk about the relationship more than he or she wants to. And many of your talks about the relationship leave you feeling more insecure, unlovable and second-rate.
11. There is another man or woman in the picture - and your man or woman can't seem to get him or herself to end the relationship with that other man or woman. You can see that he or she is genuinely confused because he or she loves the other person too - or more!
12. Your assessment of where the relationship is at is different from his or hers - and when you point this out, he or she says you are making him or her feel pressured for something he or she can't give or isn't ready for.
13. His or her life - professional and social - seems so full that there is not much room for you. The more you try to fit in, the more you feel like the "outsider" and he or she is not doing much to include you.
14. The last time you tried to back away a little to try seeing things clearer, you couldn't even pull that one through. You got so scared that a little distance might end the relationship completely.
15. You have s*x with him or her because you think that's what he or she wants - you hope and pray that the closeness of s*x will bring the two of closer to each other - but it only makes you feel used.
16. You are constantly trying to see the negatives of the relationship in positive light and focing yourself to believe him or her - even when what he or she is saying defies simple common sense.
17. You are obsessed with trying to interprete, understand and clarify his or her every word and action. You are constantly searching FB pages like S*x Life for articles, asking friends and even strangers what they think - does he or she love me or not?
18. He or she is in total control of his or her feelings and of the relationship. You are the powerless clinger.
19. Your anxiety is on the high end - you are really afraid that this relationship might end (and expecting it to) anytime really soon.
20. There is a part of you that just wants to end it all - wants him or her to leave so that you can regain your lost power (feel normal again), yet you are frightened of that too.
Loving too much is a relationship-ki ller!
Interestingly, most men and women end the relationship with you, NOT BECAUSE THEY DO NOT LOVE YOU BUT BECAUSE YOUR "TOO MUCH LOVING" PLACES YOUR PARTNER UNDER SO MUCH PRESSURE.
At the end, it all boils down to one simple fact -
"Too Much of Everything Is Bad - Even Love"
