08/10/2026
𝐒𝐓𝐎𝐏 𝐒𝐄𝐍𝐃𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐌𝐎𝐍𝐄𝐘 𝐓𝐎 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐅𝐀𝐌𝐈𝐋𝐘 𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑𝐘 𝐌𝐎𝐍𝐓𝐇 FROM AN EMPTY CUP — ELSE, 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐖𝐈𝐋𝐋 𝐍𝐄𝐕𝐄𝐑 𝐁𝐔𝐈𝐋𝐃 𝐖𝐄𝐀𝐋𝐓𝐇.
𝐍𝐎𝐓𝐄: 𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐒 𝐌𝐀𝐘 𝐎𝐅𝐅𝐄𝐍𝐃 𝐒𝐎𝐌𝐄 𝐏𝐄𝐎𝐏𝐋𝐄, 𝐁𝐔𝐓 𝐖𝐄 𝐍𝐄𝐄𝐃 𝐓𝐎 𝐓𝐀𝐋𝐊 𝐀𝐁𝐎𝐔𝐓 𝐈𝐓.
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐌𝐢𝐧𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐲 𝐨𝐟 𝐅𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲.
Read that again.
Many working people are caught in what is commonly called 𝐁𝐥𝐚𝐜𝐤 𝐓𝐚𝐱.
Salary comes in.
“Send something for upkeep.”
“School fees are due.”
“Your cousin needs money to start a business.”
Because you love your family, you send M1,000 here, M 2,000 there. Sometimes, 𝟑𝟎% 𝐨𝐫 𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐧 𝟒𝟎% 𝐨𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐬𝐚𝐥𝐚𝐫𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐠𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐛𝐞𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐬𝐚𝐯𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.
Here is the hard truth:
𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐂𝐀𝐍𝐍𝐎𝐓 𝐒𝐀𝐕𝐄 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐅𝐀𝐌𝐈𝐋𝐘 𝐁𝐘 𝐑𝐄𝐌𝐀𝐈𝐍𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐏𝐎𝐎𝐑 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑𝐒𝐄𝐋𝐅.
Read that again!
𝐇𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐚𝐦𝐢𝐥𝐲 𝐢𝐬 𝐠𝐨𝐨𝐝. 𝐁𝐮𝐭 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐛𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐢𝐞𝐬 𝐜𝐚𝐧 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐲 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐟𝐮𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞. And in suxh instances, more than half the time, there will be no one to help you!!!
If you are constantly giving away money while having 𝐧𝐨 𝐬𝐚𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠𝐬, 𝐧𝐨 𝐢𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐦𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐬 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐧𝐨 𝐩𝐥𝐚𝐧 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐨𝐰𝐧 𝐟𝐮𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞, you are not creating financial stability. 𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐬𝐢𝐦𝐩𝐥𝐲 𝐦𝐨𝐯𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥 𝐩𝐫𝐨𝐛𝐥𝐞𝐦 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐨𝐧 𝐭𝐨 𝐚𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫.
𝐇𝐄𝐑𝐄 𝐀𝐑𝐄 𝟑 𝐓𝐇𝐈𝐍𝐆𝐒 𝐓𝐎 𝐃𝐎:
𝟏. 𝐁𝐔𝐃𝐆𝐄𝐓 𝐅𝐀𝐌𝐈𝐋𝐘 𝐒𝐔𝐏𝐏𝐎𝐑𝐓
Decide in advance how much you can afford to give each month. It could be 𝟓%, 𝟏𝟎% 𝐨𝐫 𝐚𝐧𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐦𝐨𝐮𝐧𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐟𝐢𝐭𝐬 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞. It must be within your "helping" budget
When that amount is finished, you do not have to feel guilty saying, “𝐈 𝐜𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐚𝐬𝐬𝐢𝐬𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐬 𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐡.”
𝟐. 𝐃𝐈𝐒𝐓𝐈𝐍𝐆𝐔𝐈𝐒𝐇 𝐍𝐄𝐄𝐃 𝐅𝐑𝐎𝐌 𝐃𝐄𝐏𝐄𝐍𝐃𝐄𝐍𝐂𝐘
There is a difference, mostly a very thin line between 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐬𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐨𝐧𝐞 𝐭𝐡𝐫𝐨𝐮𝐠𝐡 𝐚 𝐠𝐞𝐧𝐮𝐢𝐧𝐞 𝐝𝐢𝐟𝐟𝐢𝐜𝐮𝐥𝐭𝐲 and 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐢𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐞𝐧𝐭 𝐬𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐜𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐢𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞.
𝟑. 𝐁𝐔𝐈𝐋𝐃 𝐘𝐎𝐔𝐑 𝐎𝐖𝐍 𝐅𝐈𝐍𝐀𝐍𝐂𝐈𝐀𝐋 𝐅𝐎𝐔𝐍𝐃𝐀𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍
𝐒𝐚𝐯𝐞. 𝐈𝐧𝐯𝐞𝐬𝐭. 𝐏𝐫𝐞𝐩𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐮𝐭𝐮𝐫𝐞.
𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐫 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐛𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐦𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐢𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲, 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐜𝐚𝐩𝐚𝐛𝐥𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐰𝐢𝐥𝐥 𝐛𝐞 𝐨𝐟 𝐡𝐞𝐥𝐩𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐬 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐨𝐮𝐭 𝐝𝐞𝐬𝐭𝐫𝐨𝐲𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐬𝐞𝐥𝐟.
Final thoughts:
Family support is not the problem.
𝐔𝐍𝐏𝐋𝐀𝐍𝐍𝐄𝐃 𝐅𝐀𝐌𝐈𝐋𝐘 𝐒𝐔𝐏𝐏𝐎𝐑𝐓 𝐓𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐋𝐄𝐀𝐕𝐄𝐒 𝐘𝐎𝐔 𝐁𝐑𝐎𝐊𝐄 𝐈𝐒 𝐓𝐇𝐄 𝐏𝐑𝐎𝐁𝐋𝐄𝐌.
𝐘𝐨𝐮 𝐜𝐚𝐧𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐩𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐟𝐫𝐨𝐦 𝐚𝐧 𝐞𝐦𝐩𝐭𝐲 𝐜𝐮𝐩 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫.
So, diligently consider this uncomfortable question:
𝐀𝐓 𝐖𝐇𝐀𝐓 𝐏𝐎𝐈𝐍𝐓 𝐃𝐎𝐄𝐒 𝐇𝐄𝐋𝐏𝐈𝐍𝐆 𝐅𝐀𝐌𝐈𝐋𝐘 𝐁𝐄𝐂𝐎𝐌𝐄 𝐅𝐈𝐍𝐀𝐍𝐂𝐈𝐀𝐋 𝐒𝐄𝐋𝐅-𝐃𝐄𝐒𝐓𝐑𝐔𝐂𝐓𝐈𝐎𝐍?
Dnt get this msg wrongly! The main msg here is for people not to be pouring from an EMPTY CUP!
FILL YOUR CUP SO U CAN COMFORTABLY BE POURING ONTO THE FAMILY!!
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