10/11/2020
✨OPPORTUNITY✨
When a person gets a chance, he must make a choice: change his life or leave everything as it was. A change of job, an acquaintance or a move - you never know how fate would have ordered if you had gone the other way. But is there a single correct solution?
Clinical psychologist and Ph.D. Mira Branco of Duke University in the United States believes there is no such solution. But you are able to assess in advance whether the opportunity will be beneficial or harmful. The doctor talked about five rules that will help you not pass by really fateful chances.
1. Remember, there is no perfect opportunity.
Branco compares the ideal proposal with the work of abstract artists: each person will see something of his own in their paintings.
So it is with opportunities. For example, when talking about a perfect job, different people will talk about different conditions and responsibilities.
2. Set the boundaries of freedom
Each new decision changes the usual way of life. And even if it is a change for the better, the new order of things can cause discomfort. For example, if you were offered a dream promotion, keep in mind that the new position will likely require more immersion in the work and you will have less time for your family. To avoid disappointment and not overstep boundaries, Brancu advises to prioritize four things when making career decisions:
remoteness of work from home;
salary;
type of work;
employment.
3. Don't wait for the perfect opportunity - create it yourself
If you just sit and wait for the perfect partner or dream job, chances are you'll be disappointed. Instead, try to take steps forward yourself. If you dream of becoming a writer, be the first to send letters to publishers. If you want to meet a couple - make acquaintances, and do not wait until you are invited on a date by an image woven from fantasies.
4. Listen to the signs that your body is giving.
Branco believes that the body gives us signals if we do something wrong. For example, if you frequently experience sleepiness, weakness, and fatigue, the cause may not be due to a busy schedule. You probably just don't like what you do. However, if work or relationships are enjoyable, then the body feels better. As an example, a psychologist says that before starting each new project, he feels pleasantly impatient, like a child waiting for a trip to a zoo.
5. Start small
Before diving headlong into what seems like a lifelong affair, spend more time studying it and start small. If you dream of winning the world championship in pastry art, you should not immediately take on huge cakes in human height. Understand the technology, bake some cupcakes, and take small steps towards your big goal. Expectations that are too high at the start will quickly lead to disappointment
