03/30/2026
Most people here know I grew up in the same house as my grandparents.
If you were from Sarnia you probably knew our house wasnāt one we could hang out in.
My grandfather was in the Navy and your room was for sleeping in, not playing in.
My grandfather, affectionately known as Puppy, was strict but he had a motto - to serve and protect his family and I was fortunate to have a very special bond with him. Sometimes I felt guilty as I know no one else had a bond like we do.
Heās less strict now.
Heās suffered with Alzheimers for a while now.
Iāve had the pleasure of it being my turn at the plate to be the primary caregiver and itās changed my life.
I havenāt felt like it was a burden but an opportunity to spend time that I hate to admit, if it were up to just visiting them I wouldnāt have made as much time.
With Alzheimerās so much doesnāt matter, the past, your goals, basically anything other than the present moment is irrelevant (or knowing when he can eat more blueberry muffins which are his current addiction). Iāve been blessed he has remembered me, and asks a few dozen times while Iām there if I can stay and not go take care of my family. In just over a week, they will move to a specialized retirement facility, closer to me and my family as well. If youāve dealt with Alzheimerās you know change of environment can have a negative impact on the memory although I am hoping the positives it will add may benefit his health instead. I canāt help but worry that I may have just over 7 days left of him remembering me and being the man whoās called me his 3 foot bug since I can remember. I am very grateful, that they prioritized paying down their mortgage and have the equity in their home to ensure they have the best care facility available. If I can recommend anything to you all, itās to ensure you have a financial plan and power of attorney for health and medical set up incase life changes. And Iād recommend finding a home in your 40s that you can age in (good for mobility) so you donāt need to move necessarily while environmental stability is important. š