05/06/2026
Naming family may not be an honour as much as a burden.
The customary approach to name a spouse, child, or close friend as power of attorney (POA), trustee, or executor feels practical on the surface. It avoids professional fees and keeps decisions within the family. But this may be a false economy.
These roles are not symbolic; they are operational. They require time, judgement, emotional resilience, and technical knowledge. Acting as an executor, for example, involves legal filings, tax reporting, asset distribution, and coordination across institutions. Completion may last months or years, and improper ex*****on carries liability risks. Additionally, if you consider naming a friend as trustee, you may be calling on them to act on your behalf for decades, with little or no compensation.
Also, there are longstanding conventions to name the oldest child or first-born male child as executor, or to assign legal responsibilities based on proximity rather than capability.
It is common to default to familiar choices (familiarity bias) or decisions that feel pre-ordained because they are easier to make and often help avoid difficult conversations. However, these plans should not be about tradition; they are about ex*****on under pressure and the person best suited is not necessarily the oldest or the most available.
In British Columbia, executors are entitled to fair and reasonable compensation capped at about 5% of the estate value, regardless of whether you name a family member or professional. Naming a family member or friend, however, can cause hard feelings when the choice of executor feels like favouritism; the executor feels overwhelmed when the time comes to act; or the executor collects fees from the estate to the detriment of other beneficiaries. What begins as a cost-saving exercise can lead to delays, errors, and fractured relationships.