08/04/2025
Couple Financial Wars
The fourth is Maturity levels. This discussion will have maturity broken down into two parts;
👉🏼 Financial Immaturity
👉🏿 Holistic Immaturity
A]. Financial Immaturity
Some spouses have poor spending habits💸, they lack budgeting skills and are impulse buying addicts. Financial Immature spouses are those that portray maturity in other elements of life apart from finances.
For instance, Hakasuba Choongo is the last born in the family of seven, towards the parent's upkeep ration, each child (now all adults) must contribute K500 monthly. Whenever one of the siblings fails to contribute, the older ones will pressure him to meet the shortfall even when he has contributed on his part. Despite having needs for his nuclear family ( wife and kids) Hakasuba often goes to borrow and honor the pressure of contributing. As much as he is a responsible family man, he is financially immature👶 as he allows himself to be bullied in that area. This leads to increased DEBT and RESENTMENT between the wife and his relatives. A wife who is financially mature is an enemy to the family that exploits her husband 📌. And a financially responsible husband is an enemy to his wife and her family 🚮
Another example is of Mwiza, a dedicated wife who puts her self presentation first. Between paying for her son's school fees and buying a new wig/ fancy dress, she will choose the latter. Fully knowing her husband's financial status, she will still choose spending and having fun.
Financial Immature spouses strain the home's financial stability and this leads to arguments🗣️. A recipe for unstable relationship and consequently divorce💔.
Up next is Holistic Immaturity on the next post. You can add your contributions by adding your comment(s)
