05/19/2026
What? Give Up Show Business!?
This was really one of the most significant realizations I ever had.
And it totally changed my life.
What is YOUR real goal underneath your surface goal?
What really makes your heart sing?
"Everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you’re climbing it.”—Andy Rooney
For many years I had studied acting, gotten my B.A. Degree in Dramatic Art, and made the trek to Hollywood as countless thousands before me. I got my Equity card performing in Hello, Dolly! with Martha Rae, my SAG card in The Time of Your Life with James Whitmore, and did odds and ends of dinner theaters, commercials, and Disneyland. Though even minor stardom eluded me, I enjoyed my creative pursuit of the dream.
In between acting jobs, I took secretarial jobs to pay the bills—luckily, during one summer-school session, my mother had said “Learn to type, honey!” Each time a show closed, I’d call the employment agency and they’d send me on my next temporary assignment. One fateful day in September, a play I was in closed when the backers ran out of money. The temporary secretarial assignment was supposed to last for two weeks.
I was there for four years.
The catch was they kept promoting me until I was the Office Manager. With every promotion, I got more involved with the company and my coworkers, my skills improved and I discovered a love for the creative side of business. I found myself turning auditions—and then parts—down. I had clearly come to a crisis about what work I was meant to do.
Push came to shove when I got a call from a director I had worked with before. She offered me the lead, Polly Peachum, in “Three Penny Opera” at the Huston Alley Theatre in Texas.
Gulp. I reeaaallly wanted to do that part!!
But I’d have to quit this Office Manager job. And who knew if I could find another one like that? Was I willing to go back to bad day jobs while I auditioned endlessly for acting jobs?
Agonizing over my choices, I called my friend, Gaye Kruger. She asked me what I loved about acting. I said I loved being creative, the fun I had with the other actors, the applause and acknowledgment, the money, and feeling important.
She asked me what I loved about my office job. I said I loved being creative, the fun I had with my co-workers, the praise and acknowledgment, the money, and feeling important.
She said, “It’s the same list. Go for the underlying value. You have everything you want where you are now.”
She was right. The ruby slippers were on my feet and everything I wanted was in my own backyard. I never acted again.
And never missed it, either.
What are the underlying values in your life and work?
Today’s Affirmation: “All my desires are worthy and I always get everything I desire.”