07/10/2026
“My family already knows what I want. Dah pesan semua. Do I still need a will?”
It’s understandable. You’ve spoken to your spouse, told your children, and everyone seems to be on the same page. Writing it down can feel like an unnecessary step.
Those conversations matter. But we don’t always remember the same conversation in the same way.
One person remembers what you said. Another remembers an earlier discussion. Someone else understood it as a suggestion, rather than a decision.
And sometimes, your wishes change. You tell one person, assuming the rest will hear about it.
After a death, these differences can become difficult to untangle. Everyone may sincerely believe they’re honouring your wishes, while disagreeing about what those wishes actually were.
As an estate planner, I encourage families to have these conversations and put the appropriate arrangements in place. A properly prepared wasiat helps record your wishes clearly, within the limits of what it can cover.
Dah pesan is a meaningful start. Following through gives your family something clearer to refer to when you’re no longer there to explain.
That clarity is also a way of caring for the people you leave behind.
