Ling

25/10/2020

If you’re someone who’s interested in - in , , , , hmu for beer! (Or teh, heh).

I realised I learn fastest through people I meet, and I would love to get to know people with diverse backgrounds and opinions. Also, come with an open mind, else I’ll.. throw leaves at you :D

07/09/2020

I’ve been on both ends of the spectrum - withholding love and being withheld from.

I’ve brought up insecurities, and was made to feel like my feelings weren’t valid. Or I was being ‘oversensitive’ and ‘crazy’ - only to find out, there was merit to it.
Or when I didn’t want to “care too much”, I put up a show of nonchalance and kept my distance. Cos to me, caring more = losing, and it made me feel vulnerable, when I wanted to be “strong”.

Strong… for who?

Withholding became my way of controlling the outcome, because I felt small and “not enough”.

It took a lotta courage, to confront myself - why had I set these expectations of the rs, and myself? I attached unrealistic conditions because I didn’t want to get hurt, or be told that the situation was not what I believed, but this avoidance also stopped me from seeing things for what it truly was.

Getting real required me to face up to reality; but it also helped me appreciate people for who they are, and accept myself for who I am.

There’s no “perfect” life, and this in turn, has taught me to be more forgiving on my journey and learn to take bigger risks (just like this one!)

I hope my sharing today’s encouraged you in some way to try and try again, in whatever it is you want to get to. If it’s resonated please lmk by Liking this post, and you know a friend who needs this today, tag them in this vid!

I’ll see you guys in the next one ❤️

Excerpt: Tiny Beautiful Things, Cheryl Strayed

27/08/2020

Conscious spending is not about scrimping and saving to make ends meet, but spending purposefully “on what you love, and ✂️ cutting ruthlessly on what you don’t”.

☝🏻Unpopular opinion: Although most finance blogs tell you to cut down on money-draining habits such as coffee ☕️, drinks 🍺 or take-out 🥡, if your triple shot mocha frappe with soy milk is your daily indulgence, GO FOR IT. Then, identify what you DON’T like spending on, i.e. cabs / bills 💴 and cut ruthlessly on those.

It’s how I allocate i.e. my car 🚘 budget. I never saw a need for it, therefore it was easy to reallocate it to travel, to personal development and to experiences. I wouldn’t think twice bout spending on a good grass-fed 100-day dry-aged steak🥩(YUMM), or a helicopter 🚁 tour, but I would, for a $2000 bag. It’s not to say one’s better than the other. It’s for you to identify what’s important to YOU 😌

Just like how your income is an appreciation of your hard work, it can be used to appreciate you - on what brings you purpose and joy🥳

💬If you’d liked what I shared today, tag a friend who needs to see this, or bookmark it ⬇️⬇️ as a reminder to yourself :)

I would also love to hear from you, “what does conscious spending look like to you? And what are some of your conscious spending habits?” :)

Excerpt: by Concept: “Spending Extravagantly - I Will Teach You To Be Rich, - ”

23/08/2020

If i pause before payment each time, its not cos im thinking of which card to use or whether I have $ in my account 😆😆

I'm thanking the money, spending with an open heart and acknowledging what its does for me - from getting a cup of coffee, to utilities and groceries. I do the same when receiving money too, welcoming it into my life with love and gratitude in a giving-receiving cycle.

It’s helped me think bout happy vs unhappy money. I used to put off bill payments till the late payment fees came cos of some warped anxiety. I’ve always had the $ to provide for my needs, but I still stress bout it unnecessarily - and when money came in, I took it for granted. It never felt like “enough”. It’s a tool for exchange, and i’d attached all these beliefs around it.

Once I integrated in my life, it eliminated much of the unhealthy stress and anxiety I had about money and my relationship with it shifted.

“What I appreciate, appreciates”. I have what I need, to do what I want, spend how I want to, and that, is an AWESOME feeling.

Arigato Money: (I first learned bout this through on who asked the Warren Buffett of Japan, Wahei Takeda. “What is the secret to ?"
He said, arigato your money! What a concept huh?)

Excerpt: “Love your Bills” - by

I would love to know - what is your current relationship with money, and what is money to you? Share with me in the comments below or dm me if you shy! LOL.

14/08/2020

Starting a 10-part series - (I’m extra cheesy, sue me 😛) where I read to you and share insightful books, excerpts, quotes and articles! It’s part reflective, part lessons from daily lives and 100% FUN.

Cos 🥳😉

Would love to check out what your favourite book excerpts so do share your recommendations with me in the comments below
- “What’s resonating with you of late and why?”

12/08/2020

Saturday: "Filming solo was scary af today. Yes, my face got a lil rounder (HAHA). I learned to laugh and say SO WHAT. I'll eat cleaner next week!

Yes I cried through the first take and I felt like a kid on the first day of school. Pushed through, finished it and felt like a champ after"


Filming for a new IGTV series! Watch this space for deets and join me on the journey ✨✨

❤️ & 📷: , for guiding me towards fulfilling my potential

23/06/2020

“Who am I to speak on this, and why would people listen?”

I hosted my first ever online workshop over the weekend, as part of a Women of Passion festival to raise funds for HOME: Humanitarian Organisation for Migration Economics.

In the weeks leading up, I was a nervous and ecstatic ball of energy. I struggled to focus on the key points; to distill ALL that I wanted to share into one session, wanting to do the audience, the opportunity and myself justice.

My fear of speaking up comes from worthiness. My belief was that its tied to achievement.

Instead of censoring and doing myself a disservice, I can rise to the occasion, to speak up.

To dare, to engage, and take it as part of the learning process.

After the workshop,

1. I realised I could shift the focus from “what if i slip up”, to connecting w the audience and being helpful

2. I don’t need to be more or less of anything - I gave what I could, to the best of my abilities

3. I HAVE what it takes to share

It’s way easier typing a social media post, than it is holding space and speaking to an audience cos its LIVE, and there’s no edit HUNNY.

Now that I’ve physically unwound and decompressed, I’m damn proud of myself for going through with it. Super grateful for the opportunity, and for the love and support that was given for this to happen.

Thank you

18/06/2020

Been attending SGX webinars and looking to allocate 15% of my portfolio to Gold.

Am interested to hear if you've started on your investment journey this year (esp this period), what are you currently invested into? I would love to hear more viewpoints!

18/06/2020

Had quite a number of clients ask after I'd sent them emails so thought I'd share this cool resource for signature generator here:

https://signature.email/generator
(not affiliated, lol)

Now go get creative w it! 😆

17/06/2020

In today’s episode of Ling pushes herself out of her comfort zone…

I’ll be conducting a workshop this Saturday, to fundraise for HOME: Humanitarian Organisation for Migration Economics as part of a Women of Passion festival that focuses on Gifting Compassion!

I realised with a lot of financial planning workshops, investment seminars focus on HOW to make money, without realising WHY we hold ourselves back. A lot of it is exploratory, there's no should and shouldn'ts, but come with an open mind and have fun!

Here's the link to register! Would mean the world to me if you came down and supported ❤️

https://amedelumiere.com.sg/wopworkshop/ -talk-self-worth

THANK YOUU!

28/05/2020

Four budgets later and still confused?

There is now an eligibility checker on this page.

Key in your details and it’d help you navigate what schemes and plans may be available to support you.

https://www.supportgowhere.gov.sg/

Hope this helps! :D

Where to find available grants, funds and packages to get by COVID-19? A Singapore Government initiative.

10/05/2020

My mum’s always wanted the best for us. She had ideal lives painted out for her daughters, but she’s learned to let go, to support us in our pursuit of happiness, and growth.

With the past year, our relationship deepened as I let her into my life again. I remember the times where I confided my struggles and she sat on my bed, holding my hand, crying as I cried and soothing me.

Mummy, your love gives me the strength and courage to go forth into the world. Thank you for being you, and supporting us to be who we need to be. Happy mother's day ❤️☺️✨