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Nkims, Douala (2026)

12/10/2026

While reading 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think by Brianna Wiest, I came across an idea that made me reflect on how we sometimes protect ourselves emotionally.

Sometimes, caring about something means accepting that we could lose it.

Caring about a dream means risking disappointment.

Caring about someone means allowing ourselves to be vulnerable.

Trying something new means accepting that it might not work out.

And sometimes, instead of accepting that uncertainty, we convince ourselves that we don't care that much anyway.

We lower our expectations.
We distance ourselves.
We stop getting excited about possibilities.

Maybe it feels safer that way.

The book explores how treating apathy as protection can also prevent us from fully experiencing the good things life has to offer.

This made me think about an important question:

Am I genuinely okay with not caring, or am I simply trying to avoid being disappointed?

I'm learning that protecting myself from every possible disappointment could also mean missing out on meaningful experiences.

Of course, having boundaries is important. We don't have to give everything or everyone unlimited access to us.

But perhaps there's a difference between protecting our peace and closing ourselves off completely.

Sometimes, being willing to care is part of being willing to live fully.

Have you ever acted like something didn't matter to you because you were afraid of being disappointed?

10/10/2026

One idea that really made me think is how easy it is to believe that being happy means we should stop wanting more.

Sometimes we think:

“If I'm satisfied, maybe I'll lose my ambition.”
“If I enjoy where I am, maybe I'll stop pushing myself.”

But I'm learning that appreciating where I am and wanting to grow can exist at the same time.

The book 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think by Brianna Wiest, explores how we can sometimes treat happiness or acceptance as if they're the finish line, when they can actually be part of the journey toward a life with more meaning, purpose, gratitude, and joy.

That made me ask myself:

Can I appreciate where I am without giving up on where I want to go?

I think the answer is yes.

I don't have to constantly feel dissatisfied with my present just to stay motivated about my future.

Maybe real growth is learning to enjoy the journey while still moving forward.

What do you think?

Can you be genuinely happy with your life today while still wanting more for your future?

09/10/2026

While reading 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think by Brianna Wiest, one idea that made me reflect is how easily we can choose familiarity over growth.

Sometimes the familiar feels safe simply because we already know what to expect.

The same routine.
The same habits.
The same environment.
The same way of thinking.

Even when something new could actually be better for us, stepping into the unknown can feel uncomfortable because it requires vulnerability and uncertainty.

And honestly, this made me ask myself:

Am I choosing something because it's actually right for me… or simply because it's familiar?

I'm learning that comfortable doesn't always mean good, and unfamiliar doesn't always mean bad.

Sometimes growth begins when we become willing to leave what we already know.

Not because the familiar is always wrong.

But because there may be something better on the other side of the discomfort.

What is something you've been holding onto simply because it's familiar?

07/10/2026

One thing that stood out to me while reading 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think by Brianna Wiest is how much our desire to be liked can sometimes influence the way we pursue success.

The book talks about a kind of “likability limit” - the idea that we may unconsciously feel more comfortable with a level of success that still feels acceptable or non-threatening to the people around us. Sometimes, this can lead us to downplay what we're achieving or hold ourselves back.

That made me reflect.

How often do we worry about being “too much”?

Too ambitious.
Too confident.
Too successful.
Too different.

Sometimes we want to grow, but at the same time, we don't want to make other people uncomfortable.

I'm learning that being accepted shouldn't require me to constantly shrink myself.

I don't think growth means becoming better than other people.

I think it means becoming more of who I'm capable of becoming.

And maybe not everyone will understand that journey.

That's okay.

Have you ever held yourself back because you were worried about how other people would see you?

05/10/2026

One thing I'm learning about myself is that feeling good can sometimes feel uncomfortable when you're not used to it.

We usually think that when something good happens, we'll automatically embrace it.

But sometimes, when life starts going better than we're used to, we become uncomfortable.

We start overthinking.

We look for what's going to go wrong.

We create unnecessary problems.

Or we simply find a way back to what feels familiar.

The idea of having an “upper limit” for happiness really made me think.

The book 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think by Brianna Wiest describes it as a limit to how much happiness we allow ourselves to experience comfortably. When things go beyond that familiar level, we can unconsciously sabotage ourselves and return to our comfort zone.

And honestly, I can relate to the idea of being more comfortable with what I know than with something new, even when the new thing could be better.

It made me ask myself:

Am I sometimes protecting my comfort instead of allowing myself to grow?

Maybe growth isn't only about learning how to deal with difficult moments.

Maybe it's also learning how to be comfortable when life is going well.

That's something I'm thinking about.

Have you ever noticed yourself becoming uncomfortable when things were actually going well?

👇 I'd genuinely like to know.

28/09/2026

THE PARTS OF YOU THAT AREN'T “I”

Your heart is yours.
Your hands are yours.
Your thoughts are yours.
Your emotions are yours.
Your beliefs are yours.

But are they you?

Think about it.

You say “my body.”
You say “my thoughts.”
You say “my emotions.”

If they're yours...

then who is the “I” that owns them?

Maybe we're so used to defining ourselves by our body, our job, our relationships, our achievements, our beliefs, and our past that we forget something important:

We are constantly changing.

The person you were five years ago isn't exactly the person you are today.

Your beliefs changed.
Your priorities changed.
Your dreams changed.
Your way of seeing life changed.

Yet you still recognize yourself as you.

Maybe knowing yourself isn't about creating a perfect definition of who you are.

Maybe it's about becoming aware of everything you have been attaching to the word “I.”

Your job isn't you.
Your mistakes aren't you.
Your achievements aren't you.
Your thoughts aren't always you.
Your emotions aren't always you.

They are things you experience.

And maybe that distinction can change the way you see yourself.

This idea really made me stop and think while reading 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think by Brianna Wiest.

So here's the question I'm sitting with:

What remains when you stop identifying yourself with everything you call “mine”?

👇 What do you think?

15/09/2026

Maybe the most uncomfortable part of growth is realizing that nobody is coming to live your life for you.

You eventually have to make the decision.

To speak up.
To change direction.
To let go.
To take responsibility.
To choose what happens next.

And yes, that's scary.

Because responsibility means you can't blame everything on circumstances.

But there's something powerful about that realization too:

If you have a role in creating your life, you also have the power to change it.

This is the final part of my series inspired by ideas from 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think.

We've gone from feeling lost -> becoming aware -> outgrowing old versions of ourselves -> taking responsibility for where we go next.

Which part of this 4-part series spoke to you the most?

10/09/2026

Sometimes growth means outgrowing the version of yourself you once knew.

Your interests change.
Your goals change.
Your circle changes.
Even the things you once dreamed about can start feeling different.

And that can be uncomfortable.

Because you're leaving something familiar without knowing exactly what's coming next.

But maybe that's part of the process.

You don't have to have the new version of yourself figured out yet.

You're allowed to evolve.

Inspired by ideas from 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think.

What have you outgrown recently?

08/09/2026

Sometimes growth changes more than your mindset.
It changes your life around you.

Your routine changes.
Your priorities change.
You may want more time alone.
Sometimes circumstances change without asking for permission.

And when everything feels unfamiliar, it's easy to think:

“What is happening to me?”

Maybe nothing is wrong.

Maybe you're simply going through a transition.

I'm continuing this series based on ideas from 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think.

Which one can you relate to most - 05, 06, 07, or 08? 👇

04/09/2026

Not every uncomfortable feeling means something is going wrong.

Sometimes, feeling lost, confused, emotional, or uncertain can be part of becoming a different version of yourself.

Growth doesn't always feel good.

Sometimes it feels like questioning everything.
Sometimes it feels like outgrowing people.
Sometimes it feels like starting over.

And sometimes, what feels like being lost is actually the beginning of finding yourself.

I came across this idea while reading 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think, and it really made me think.

Maybe discomfort isn't always something to escape.
Maybe sometimes, it's something to understand.

👇 Which of these feelings have you experienced recently?

Part 1/4 - more coming.

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