03/19/2026
Early in my career, when we started earning serious money, I went to see our bank’s financial advisor.
She asked me just one question: “What is your risk tolerance?”
I had no idea. But the word “risk” was enough. Who likes risk, right?
So I said: none.
She didn’t ask what was behind that answer. I didn’t ask what the question actually meant.
The result: a significant portion went into multi-year fixed deposits. I made tiny interest, paid full tax on it, and when you factor in inflation… I had lost money. Real money. Over years.
What I didn’t understand then: “no risk” isn’t always the safe choice. It’s a different kind of risk if used on its own. It has a place, but only as part of intentional wealth building. Otherwise you risk your money quietly losing value while sitting still.
But more importantly, underneath that answer was a story I hadn’t examined.
I grew up watching my father invest. It meant stress at the dinner table: daily market ups and downs. My mother stressed watching him stressed, and trying to manage the money.
When the advisor asked about risk, I wasn’t answering from analysis. I was answering from a twelve-year-old’s memory of a stressed dinner table.
Fifteen years later… Maria came to me after her divorce with the same blank answer ready.
We didn’t treat it as a checkbox. We worked out her actual risk capacity over time. Her income, her timeline, her money stories, what she was genuinely afraid of and why.
Once she could separate emotional risk from financial risk, everything opened up.
She doubled her investments over six years.
She didn’t became someone who loves risk. But she understood what her risk actually was.
Risk tolerance isn’t a personality trait. It’s a starting point, shaped by your history, your stories, and your actual situation.
It deserves real consideration. Not a checkbox.
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